"Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good." -Romans 12:9
I often hear people saying to Christians, stop being a hypocrite! You are suppose to be loving! They read or hear of passages in the Bible that say, "don't judge" or "love without hypocrisy" and they say, "why aren't you being more loving"? What they fail to understand is that there is more to it than that. They may hear someone sayâ€¦"love without hypocrisy"....but fail to understand this passage also says, "Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good".
What the Bible defines as a hypocrite is someone who says one thing and does another. It is a pretender. When a Christian claims to love, they do not claim to love through the lens of what many people would say is, "good" and what many people would say is "evil". They love according to what the Bible says is good and evil. A clearer way to understand what people may be trying to say to the Christian is, "accept what I accept because that is what being love means to me". The problem arises when people don't understand that Christians aren't trying to love by acceptance, but they are trying to love according to how the Bible says to love. By this very definition, if a Christian is following the rules of the Bible on love, they are being the exact opposite of a hypocrite when they won't condone something the Bible calls evil.
If you claim to be a Christ follower, then you seek to obey the Bible (the whole Bible) and become more like Jesus. Period. Those who say they are Christians but refuse to live out what the Bible teaches are actual pretenders. This includes, those who call what the Bible says is good evil and abhor what the Bible says is good. This and this alone is what would makes someone a pretender, a hypocrite. Not if we love what the world loves and hate what the world hates. We never said that is what we are doing. We are claiming to follow what the Bible says...period.
"Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil;
Who put darkness for light, and light for darkness;
Who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!" -Isaiah 5:20
Following the above passage from Romans, it does talks about loving those who hate you and blessing those who disagree. This is also how the Christian should live. Giving sacrificial love to others. One on one, we are told by the Bible to help all people. To pray for all people. To serve those who hate us. This is what the Bible tells us to do. We will work do this, but that doesn't mean we will support or condone something the Bible calls evil and say it is good.
"Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse" -Romans 12:14
Understand too, that the Bible says to love your "enemy" or those who "persecute us". Understand, if a Christian is coming to you in LOVE and pointing out what the Bible says, and how it doesn't line up with your life, they consider you a friend. They only unconditionally bless their enemies (Bible definition of an enemy is someone who sets themselves against a Christian, we aren't actually suppose to set ourselves against anyone). Only friends are corrected in love. Only friends are cared for enough to be told the truth, in order to help them grow.
"Faithful are the wounds of a friend,
But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." -Proverbs 27:6
Simply put, this is what the Bible has to say about hypocrites: If you meet a Christian who is always unforgiving, rude, and vengeful? They are living like a hypocrite. If you meet a Christian who accepts what the Bible says is evil? They too are living like a hypocrite. Either way, the Bible says that neither is loving. Neither is true. Understand this is not how the Christian is trying to live. They are working to love and bless people, while refusing to compromise their position on what the Bible says to the world. What the Bible says about good and evil.